Miracle happens

Well here it's my post related to 80 year Old man......
(1) Have a firm handshake.
(2) Look people in the eye.
(3) If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
(4) Keep secrets.
(5) Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen Everyday.
(6) Always accept an outstretched hand.
(7) be brave. Even if you're not,pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
(8) avoid sarcastic remarks.
(9) choose your life's mate carefully.from this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.
(10) make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never findout.
(11) lend only those books you never care to see again.
(12) never deprive someone of hope ; it might be all that they have.
(13) give people a second chance bit not third.
(14) Be romantic.
(15) become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
(16) loosen up. Relax. Except for rare -life and death- matters,nothing is as important as it first seems.
(17) don't allow the phone to interrupt
Important moments. It's there for our convenience,not the caller's.
(18) Be a good loser.
(19) Be a good winner.
(20) think twice before burdening a friend with secrets.
(21) when someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
(22) be modest. A lot was accomplished
before you born.
(23) keep it simple.
(24) don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
(25) live your life so that your epitaph could read no regrets.
(26) Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the once you did.
(27) never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
(28) remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
(29) take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
(30) visit friend and relatives who are good for you when they're in hospital.you need only stay a few minutes.
(31) begin each day with some of your favourite music.
(32) once in a while,take the scenic route.
(33) answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
(34) keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table,million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 am.
(35) show respect for everyone who works for a living,regardless of how trivial their job.
(36) send your loved ones flowers.think of a reason later.
(37) become someone's hero.
(38) marry only for love.
(39) count your blessings.
(40) compliment the meal when you are a guest in someone's home.
(41) remember that 80 percent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

Read my lips!!!

Well after watching 3 Idiots I was wondering about the lessons that the movie conveys through its story. Some useful lessons for you which are realy helpful in current compettive scenario.

1. Never Try To Be Successful
Success is the bye-product. Excellence always creates success. So, never run after the success, let it happen automatically in the life..

Do not learn to get success. Learn for knowledge. Success will follow. When we strive hard to learn and improve our knowledge, we move ahead in life.

2. Freedom To Life
Don’t die before actual death. Live every moment to the fullest as you are going to die today night. Life is gifted to humankind to live, live & live @ happiness.

Do not take life too seriously. Life is there to enjoy, have fun, making friends, and of course getting proper education. We get life once and we should live it the way we dream of.


3. Passion Leads To Excellence
When your hobby becomes your profession and passion becomes your profession. You will be able to lead up to excellence in the life. Satisfaction, pleasure, joy and love will be the outcome of following passion. Following your passion for years, you will surely become something one day.

4. Learning Is Very Simple
Teachers do fail. Learners never fail. Learning is never complicated or difficult. Learning is always possible whatever rule you apply.

5. Pressure At Head Current education system is developing pressures on students’ head. University intelligence is useful and making some impact in the life but it cannot be at the cost of the life.

6. Life Is Emotion Management Not Intelligence Optimization Memory and regular study have definite value and it always helps you in leading a life. You are able to survive even if you can make some mark in the path of the life. With artificial intelligence, you can survive and win but you cannot prove yourself genius. Therefore, in this process genius dies in you.

7. Necessity Is The Mother Of Invention
Necessity creates pressure and forces you to invent something or to make it happen or to use your potentiality. Aamir Khan in this film, 3 idiots, is able to prove in the film by using aqua guard pump at the last moment.

8. Simplicity is Life
Life is need base never want base. Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life and Indian culture highly stresses on simple living and high thinking, and this is the way of life: ‘Legs down to earth and eyes looking beyond the sky’

9. Industrial Leadership Dean of the institute in 3 idiots is showing very typical leadership. He has his own principles, values and ideology, and he leads the whole institute accordingly. This is an example of current institutional leadership. In the present scenario, most of the institutes are fixed in a block or Squarish thinking.

10. Importance Of One Word In Communication
If communication dies, everything dies. Each word has impact and value in communication. One word if used wrongly or emphasized wrongly or paused at a wrong place in communication what effect it creates and how is it affected is demonstrated very well in this movie.

Learn to communicate well. Each word has its own importance. Proper pauses and stress on certain words will convey the exact meaning, or may even change the entire meaning. Like in the movie, Chatur's speech was modified with few words but the entire speech was changed.

11. Mediocrity Is Penalized

Middle class family or average talent or average institute is going to suffer and has to pay maximum price in the life if they do not upgrade their living standards. To be born poor or as an average person is not a crime but to die as an average person with middle class talent is miserable and if you are unable to optimize your potentiality and die with unused potentiality then that is your shameful truth. One should not die as a mediocre. He/she has to bring out genius inside him/her and has to use his/her potentiality to the optimum level.

hey problem you are nothing

So I was on facebook today and saw a quote on one of my facebook friend's statuses. The quote is this:

"In times of difficulties, don’t ever say, ‘God, I have a big problem!’ Instead say, ‘Hey problem, I have a big God!’ and everything will be all right." ~ Brahma Kumaris

 I am not a believer in mere coincidence.  I mean, in things that really matter.  For instance, I DO believe it could be a coincidence that you wear the same outfit as a friend....or that you call someone who tells you they had just picked up the phone to call you....

It's so easy to get bogged down with all the problems we face in this world (for me, I know, it seems like the list in endless), and it's easy to forget that God really IS bigger than ALL our problems.  But the reality is this -- He totally IS!!

Not only does God fight for us, but He promises to DELIVER us from what ails us.  We just have to be mindful that He will do it on HIS time, not OUR time, and DEFINITELY NOT any other affliction's time, because if He did it on the schedule of the latter, it would never be accomplished, and if He did it on OUR time, it would never teach us patience (one of the hardest, but most rewarding, fruits of the Spirit, to embody).

So....to wrap up....instead of telling God, "God, I have this really big problem and I don't think I can beat it," we should say, "Problem, I have an insurmountably big GOD, and He will take care of you!!"

So take THAT!!  MY GOD FIGHTS ON MY BEHALF, which means He will help me defeat YOU!!

A while back

Almost some time ago I learnt how to fly,

Dreams were new, hopes were high.

A world unseen and unimagined was waiting for me.

Faces were new, some were good, and some were shy.

Finally I learnt how to fly.

Before anything happened, you came by,

Changed every bit of my dreams,

Made me smile and sometimes cry,

For everything wrong that has happened, I still hold onto you.

I am still flying and the reason is you.

Friends, who were close, never came by,

Chasing their dreams, it was their time to fly.

We all have options to fly or to stay,

People will come and go by their own way.

I smile at my lord, for all the courage he has given me

I have now learnt how to fly.

A brother letter

Well i'm not sure we’re ever had this kind of talk before.

I should’ve told you this if you were able to speak or listen me but you are not like others even not intelligent like others but you are god gifted.I guess it’s sort of destiny fault. But I want to make up for all of that as much as I possibly can.

Anyways my blog starts now : As a modern girl, you’re subjected to so many stereotypes. That you’re supposed to be prim and proper and always maintain your calm and basically live with everyone else in harmony and conformity. But I want to tell you that you don’t need to.

I know that everyone has always taught you to be the polite, humble and grateful woman that you are today, but I want you to be impolite if the need ever arises. I want you to stand up for your fellow woman or man, at the risk of discomfort and develop a zero-tolerance attitude for bullying, harassment of any kind, demeaning comments or insensitivity, whether it’s directed at you or anyone else. You don’t have to make a scene; you can calmly explain to others what they did wrong. But don’t ever be afraid of making a scene if you have to. I can understand how at first you’d be perceived as somewhat ill-mannered and the sort who causes embarrassment to others. But the more you fight these stereotypes, the more you’ll promote a culture of tolerance and understanding.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life. As a young woman, you may seek out the companionship of your fellow woman and think that you could lead a happy and content life if you followed the example of your best friend. Don’t. Everyone leads a unique life, filled with their own challenges and hardships. Just because you envy the life of your friends, doesn’t mean you need to follow in their footsteps. Be yourself, always. You’re a beautiful person, on the inside and out. Spend time with yourself and get to know you. Life is too short to live trapped in the dogma of others.

Don’t compare yourself with other women. While having a female role model to look up to is great, constantly feeling jealous of other women can really bring you down. Don’t be bogged down by the media’s unrealistic standards of beauty, you’re beautiful just the way you are. You don’t need to use an endless supply of products every time you want to feel good about yourself. Too many women waste their time being insecure and unhappy about their bodies to enjoy their life. Don’t be one of them.

I also want you to become more independent. Although you can always count on me to help out in any way that i can, I want you to start doing more things by yourself. Like driving to the store. Paying your bills online. Cooking for one. Prioritizing your spending. Being independent isn’t just about making your own money and doing what you like. It’s a way of life. Independence means accepting responsibility for your choices and your actions. It means feeling secure in your life, no matter what is going down around you. And it means living with the consequences.

People tend to confuse independence with never asking for help. The real key to becoming an independent woman is knowing as much as possible about yourself and the world around you. It’s simply not possible for any one person to know everything. So if you don’t know something, ask. Learn. Teach yourself. Read a book. Take a class.  And you’ll never have to ask again. Take pride in yourself and your capabilities. It’s a feeling of joy that no one can take away from you.

I also want you to be more happy. And to not base that happiness on your relationship status. I won’t pretend to tell you that I know everything there is about love, but what I have learnt is that having a significant other in your life should enhance your life. But you don’t need a man to define yourself or validate your life. Too many people spend too much time chasing after a relationship they don’t need before they’ve learnt to love themselves.

When you do fall in love, I want you to take your time. There isn’t really such a thing as ‘the perfect partner’, but any man you do fall in love with should respect and love the strong, independent woman that you are. He should appreciate you for all that you do, support your passions as though they were his own, be a shoulder to cry on and call you out when you make a mistake. He should be understanding and communicative. He should be someone you can talk to just as easily about your day as your hopes, dreams and fears.

But even if you do get into a relationship, or get married, always make sure you have other things going on in your life outside the relationship. Hang out with your own friends, make plans at work, have your own hobbies and interests. Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean losing all sense of self or your identity. But at the same time, there’s a fine line between compromise and being yourself. Relationships aren’t about one person. And its never going to be without its ups and downs. Learn to throw your ego aside and work with your partner when things get hard.

I’m not going to sugarcoat it; being a woman in this modern day is pretty hard. You not only have to face opposition from men who may think you’re beneath them, but also from your own gender who may pull you down when you climb too high. But I’m confident that the smart, beautiful woman you’ve become will find a way to steamroll through any obstacle and come out the other end, completely unscathed. And while I may have never told you this before, I’m glad that i'm your brother It’s a badge of honor I’ll always wear proudly on my chest. 

zindagi na milegi dobara

A deep thought while sitting on the couch, with a jumbo mug of coffee and a pinch of loneliness, sometimes evoke realizations that were hibernating for so long. And the irony is that they were hibernating in our subconscious mind, an integral part of us only. May be these realizations pop up now and then, but they are too subtle to be heard; too tiny to deserve any attention by us. In this battle of “our oblivion towards them versus their urge for getting recognition” they easily get knocked out. They dive deep into that dark unexplored zone of our subconscious mind, only to surface once again. But their constant efforts, that secretly increases by leaps and bounds, sometime do win and we give in. Thank God, we give in. It is this defeat, that often gifts us with the most memorable and precious moments of our lives. It is due to this defeat, that the realizations get converted into actions and we are the winners!

Life is a typical rat race, an ecstatic journey! But have we ever thought that the major chunk of it is dedicated to fulfill our career oriented aspirations and for literally running and slogging for getting what we crave for? Not stopping for anything, not for anyone. This is how we look at it right now. Well, life demands this sort of an attitude nowadays. In the spare time, if we get any, we do certain things to relax, if we are not busy taking care of our sleep deprivation!! If we take a close look at our so very well maintained priority list where is that “item number” representing “having quality time with friends” or “taking a break with our closed ones who are not close by”?  It somehow manages to show up on the list at the fag end of it, but almost completely unnoticed. Those “very rare” lonely face-offs with ourselves, are the time that we realize that it even exists in our list. Memories and more memories are what follow and it pushes us hard to feel the urge for spending time with them all over again; they, who are just left ignored on the way to our dreams.

But if we purposely take out time to be with them, to spend that “well deserved” quality time, as if we don’t spend now we would never get another chance to be with them, does it cost a lot? Why do we have to see a lavish, larger than life movie “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” to comprehend that? A long awaited & deserving break with friends and closed ones has it all to give life its true meaning. A short trip with an essence of reunion may reignite those bonds that were integral part of our daily life sometime back. Sometimes a short trip with our friends and family is what we need to augment those emotional connections once again, to feel human like and not like a robot anymore, to feel that life is not just daily a struggle for existence but a celebration; having our family and friends around, life is indeed a celebration. A trip meant for bonding and a lot more. A trip of rediscovering not only ourselves but our ties with those people who don’t even complain to us of being forgotten. Starting from fighting for the window seat of the car to being adamant not to be pushed to the awesomely suffocating back seat; from sleeping unconsciously on each others’ “as strong as ever shoulders” to ordering all types of food possible (as if this is our last meal on earth); from giggling over each others’ funny food habits to returning back with grumpy faces, teary eyes but still putting up a smile as “if everything is just fine”– these are enough for us to have a change of heart. It is these that testify our real self and the true purpose of our life and reshuffles the priority list completely.

The unseen strings of attachment and bonding re-appears without even knowing. The very realization that “these are the moments that are food for life and we need to hold on to them”, is what gets engraved on our soul forever. The rat race will not stop for us if we fall out, but friends would. And it is these little get-togethers, occasional trips, meet ups that give it “the well deserved” boost! It gives us the heavenly pleasure of stealing some moments for ourselves from this ruthless marathon called life.

We are all in one team, a team of affectionate, attached and bonded people who just forget to live while catching up with the speed of life; who are as hungry for love as ever but that gets hidden beneath the peer pressure of proving oneself. But realizations strike us hard occasionally and we run towards our beloved and grab them. And we know that they were always there silently waiting for us to express. This doesn’t need to be told to the world but to be silently accepted by ourselves.

Till we again take out time from our busy life for ourselves, the moments need to stay very close to the heart! The realizations need to hold on to us and keep on fighting to knock us down all over again!

Keep promising :)

Well man is by nature a social animal. In fact society is based on the links and the relationships between people. At a very young age we learn to adapt to our surroundings to get along with the people around us. Before we even start school we learn to keep promises. Be good, behave, and mom or dad will take you out, buy you a toy; if you’re not good, Santa won’t get you presents, etc. By the time we are ready to start school we already know what it takes to keep a promise.

When I was growing up the first thing my parents taught me was how important it is to set goals in our lives, to make promises and be true to them. My dad told “We build strength of character by making and keeping promises to ourselves and to others. The commitments we make and keep to ourselves and to others, and our integrity to those commitments, is the essence of any successful relationship in life. That is what makes possible every other positive thing in our lives, like having friends, being successful in our jobs. It is important to honour your word and keep your promise. Always try to live your life with dignity, integrity and loyalty.”

I grew up on his words and being loyal to my friends became vital for me. But it didn’t always end well. I remember when I was a student in grade six, the teacher who taught us the course gave us too much homework, even though we had him once a week. During this one particular lesson after he assigned us homework of copying so many lessons our whole class agreed to not do the homework. On the day it was due, when asked to hand in the homework, I found out that everyone in class without exception had done it except me. Shocked as I was, when asked where my homework was, I simply said I don’t have it. I was called to stand at the blackboard and was berated of course in front of the whole class and asked to redo the work twenty times.

I didn’t understand why my classmates did what they did, nor did I care at the time. It is our response to what happens to us that hurts the most. I was not hurt. Disappointed with my friends behavior, yes one hundred percent. But I was not hurt, for as Gandhi once said:

“They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.”

I stood in the middle of the classroom with my head held high because I had kept my promise and I felt good about it. But there have been times in my life when my choices have brought consequences I would rather have lived without.

life like a mountain

First of all, sincere apologies for the late post. I had tonns of work to do last few weeks, hence I didn't have a clear mind and enough time to write a post here. Finally here it is.
Only a Mouse-click away...
The Internet and Blogging has made me a better person in many many ways. It has enhanced my personality, made me more understanding and patient in ways I can't finish expressing here. The variety of people, thoughts, experiences, stories, lessons and wisdom that I come across through a great many blogs on a daily basis, has basically made me a live knowledgebase of Life :). I have grown in ways that it's magnitude is impossible to put down in words. Why? Because some things simply can't be written but can only be felt in your heart. I can only explain it this way...if I take myself few months ago (before I started Blogging) and compare it with who I am today, it'll be a flat-ground and a mountain that I'm comparing. Yes, my spirit is soaring new heights and touching the skies now, which it couldn't do before. Wisdom brings you ultimate freedom.
All I can say is I count my blessings every single day, no matter how hard life may be. I thank life for giving me the Internet, for giving me sight, for giving me the ability to read and write, for giving me so many friends from across the world, for giving me a rich heart by all the wisdom I come across through blogs...and for giving it all FREE of charge. There are still so many people in this world that have never experienced the Internet, have no access to wisdom and knowledge like we do, have never been this connected with people, have never had the privilege to read or write, have no eye-sight, have no money or the freedom to blog, have no one to listen to what they have to say etc etc. Therefore we need to be thankful for what we have...we have a huge treasure island here, with treasures of love, understanding and light. This has added colour and beauty to my being that is priceless, and can never be traded with anything else in the world. I hope it has been the same for you. Live life for today, and appreciate what you already have.

Let the kid within you be a part of your life.

I cannot begin to explain what introspection can do for one’s growth. All that you need to know you already have somewhere within you. It’s all in there, it simply must be found.

I also see the importance of looking into one’s past, in my case, of the things that I have done, where I have gone, what I used to be. It’s all within me, a part of who I am. It is what’s made what is moving and breathing and doing, right now.

In many ways, I see both as different forms of the same thing. Because the past has brought me to where I am now, and all my memories, all my experiences, all my younger me’s are what make me what I am now. They’re a part of me, and looking within (introspection) is often much like looking at my old selves (looking into the past).

I look back at the younger versions of me, and sometimes wish that I could have done things better. But this is a negative way of looking at a huge positive, because I know that my past experiences, mistakes and all, have brought me to where I am at the present. I could not have grown to where I am now without it all.

Chunks of my childhood stand out to me in particular, and I’m not alone in sometimes missing the days when things were so “simple”. Either way, I think it was a valuable time for me as a period of growth, of course, but I also think that those memories keep a front-row seat in my mind I’m missing something in my life that I was exposed to them. Allow me to explain:

We always say we were this and that. I was a toddler, I was seven years old, I was a sixth grader. As if we are no longer those things, and have moved on completely.

This isn’t true, though, at least not for me. These things still live within me. I am still a toddler, seven, and in sixth grade. I have never “moved beyond” these things so as to leave them behind, as they are a part of who I am now. I have simply grown into a new place in my life.

The reason why I’m saying these things is because they matter. We try to forget who we were, what we’ve done, where we’ve been. We all eventually enter the “world of adults” and it’s bye-bye childhood from there. Suddenly everything is about money, about success, about complicated, twisted issues. Stress, stress, stress.

We cannot forget.

Why do we do this? Because everyone else does. So we willingly dive into the whirlpool to see where it takes us. Anything that was done in childhood is for children. Adults are not children!

But they are, we all are. And there is so much we can learn from children if we look back at our own childhoods and relive what happened then. Sure, the world may be a bit different when you’re an adult. Yes, there are actually responsibilities and struggles that weren’t there before, but that doesn’t mean we have give up the beautiful, life-filled energy that we had when we were younger. We don’t have to let go of the free-ness, the wildness we once had. We still have that passion burning – a flame inside.

Most importantly, somewhere within us, we still have the innate ability to let life flow and whoosh around us. I don’t mean that we let life slip right by, that’s what adults, you or I, are doing by letting worries cloud our vision so heavily. I mean truly feeling life as it rushes through you.

Let the kid within you be a part of your life.

We are in 25 but now what

We are the 25-year-olds. We are the ones rolling in our chairs at the office because we still feel awkward in our grown-up clothes. We visit through city streets with eyes cast toward our screens, desperately seeking any source that will tell us the decisions we've made are valid. We work hard in jobs we aren't sure we want to make those fancy degrees feel worth it, and we date people we aren't sure we love to make everything feel less lonely.

We spend hours drinking wine on apartment floors or in a hotel room promising one another that those who broke our hearts will not own us forever.

We are 25, and hangovers hurt now. Most of our conversations these days center on assuring one another we are going to be okay. We are proud of each other but hard on ourselves. When a friend does something as simple as cooking a food more complex than pizza, we applaud her, yet we berate ourselves for not yet having a corner office or a bestselling memoir or a thriving startup.

We dance all night to pitbull because he understands. We love who we want, and we hate labels. We are not in college anymore, and we've just become too old to crash their parties. Everyone we know no longer lives on the same block, and we long for the days of running back and forth between houses at 1 a.m. We have few obligations, yet we are always stressed, wondering if life will ever be more certain.

Our breakups never end because social media keeps reminding us of our exes. Even when we block them or unfriend them, their names are bound to pop up on our news feeds below pictures they've liked, and their faces assault us when mutual friends post albums. We hate online dating, but we all do it because it feels like the only way.

We are 25, and we constantly try to tell ourselves to stop complaining and enjoy our youth. Life isn't really that bad. We have our families, our friends and our health. We are young and vibrant and the world is ours. We are closer to our parents than the 25-year-olds who came before us, and many of us are lucky enough to still have their support. We have the time to go to bars and be with friends. We get to party and work and not worry about others depending on us. Yet all this fear remains, and it melts us into pessimists. Because life is pretty good, and still we can't stop worrying. So we worry even more about what will happen to us when there are real things to worry about.

We hear the grown-ups urge us to calm down. They tell us it will all fall into place, that if they could give advice to their younger selves it'd be to send the butterflies away and have a good time before age catches up with us. We hear them say these things, but we don't believe them. Things don't just fall into place. We have to put them there, and we feel like every second we spend streaming movies from our bedrooms is a second we are not putting ourselves out there. Yet we stream on.

We waste time the same way we did in college, only now doing so makes us uncomfortable.We are too old to go out every night, but we are too young to stay in and do nothing. We want to be more productive and live a more worthwhile existence, but we haven't quite figured out how. We don't yet have children or spouses or secure jobs or whatever it is that would make us feel like we had more of a reason to live.

We are 25, and even though we are worried all the time, we still don't want to get older. We never want to reach the point where we cannot be considered kids, even though the studies we read say people are actually happier in their 30s. Because we may be scared, but we are still 25, and boy do we have fun.

We try to stop punishing ourselves for not becoming Mark Zuckerbergs, but we overlook the fact that they are the exception to the rule of 25. Because for most of us, at 25 life detonates as we suddenly forget why we chose that major or moved to this city or loved that person. All we want is to understand who we are, and we can't. Only time will tell us.

I am afraid

I am afraid,

Of myself,

What I can do,

Where I will go,

What lays ahead,

The things that I don’t yet see,

 

I am scared,

Of what I am becoming,

Where I am going,

Why I am doing, being, moving,

 

I am terrified,

Of what I will find,

When I delve within,

The depths of myself,

The crevices, the darkness,

The bottom of the sea that I hold in my being,

 

I’m afraid of my limits,

The point where I can go no more,

When my weakness steps out into the world,

Anyone can look,

Judge,

 

Do I want,

To know the extent of my abilities?

To know the full potential I have?

To discover my place,

Of greatest extent?

 

Is there such a place,

Burdening… me,

Or does this lie just sit,

In a worried corner of my mind?

 

There is no finish line,

Final words the the tale,

End,

 

There is just,

My fears,

The limits I place upon myself,

And me,

No beginning, no end,

Just me

Affection better than perfection

Affection as the word says is a tender feeling towards another of love. As it is said a person is only hungry of love, care and affection. At any point of time in his life he wont be remembered for the amount of work he did in his office or the business he brought for the organization but he will be remembered for the love he shared, the good friends he made in his lifetime. Perfection is necessary but its not everything in life. Perfection will definitely make a person successful but what is the use of this success if you don’t have anyone to enjoy it along with you. As a very famous dialogue from the movie 3 idiots says “Bachha kaabil bano,kaabil… kamyabi to sali jhak maar ke peeche bhagegi” says that we should become capable, success will follow you no matter what. We try to become a Perfect son, a Perfect brother, a Perfect husband but in this process we forget that being an affectionate son, an affectionate brother and an affectionate husband is more important.
We have seen relationships getting sour because of few faults, we should remember nobody is perfect and at the end Affection is always greater than perfection.

Song with heartbreak

We all have our sad, heart breaking moments in life. I too have had a few. The only problem is that whenever I look at them in retrospect and try to narrate them, they come out a little funny..
They have never been funny to me, but strangely, the moment I start narrating them or putting them in words, It turns into a Raj Kapoor style tragic comedy..(Did I just make a self-congratulatory gesture here..?)

Talking of heart breaks, there are many sorts of heart breaks. They happen to you as a kid, as a little boy, as a teenager, as a grown up, as a student, as a friend, as a friend-turned-lover.
I don't think they hurt or feel so bad to everybody but there must be a lot of people out there who recognize what I mean. They are the kind of heart breaks that keep happening if you have an Over-active and Pseudo-real imagination like mine..

How each one of them can happen to you or happened to me could well be a story unto itself but its still in draft mode besides a lot else..(I just figured it out, thats the problem, just too many things remain in draft mode for me...ohh...the trials and tribulations of a thoughtful human...)

I think the 'bed of pain' part got inspired by 'Always' of Bon Jovi..I haven't done much editing with this but I think this could be a song if I had a band or something..:P
But anyways, for now, we have the lyrics..
I know commenting on Blogspot is a pain but forget pain and comment me if you like or dislike will make my skills better.

WHAT I NEVER SAID

Did i say i dint need you
Did i say i am strong
Did i say i dont waana talk
Did i say i am not alone.

Ages passed and now i'm lying down here 
On this cold flat bed of pain
Feel i was trapped for too long
In memories and that cold rain

When you went away i had no choice
but to let it slip and stop this noise
This voice in my head,this pain in my heart
that says i still need you
Still love you and will never stop.

I had to stop being weak
I had to stop showing these scars
I had to cover these wounds
and tell me that i don't care
and tell me that it'll pass

When I cried I hid behind these smiles
and the little jokes only I could see
When I cried I faced the mirror
and let that reflection laugh back on me

Did i say i dint need you
Did i say i am strong
Did i say i don waana talk
Did i say i am not alone.

This may sound more painful than one can ever feel in retrospect, but I guess this was the immediate aftermath, so not much help there in keeping it sobered..

I would love to explain the feelings behind those lines and put some more work into it.. Suggestions at modifications are welcome..

Something stupid like...i love you

Just now i am listening a song of Robbie williams and Nicole kidman.it's nice song though. honestly, i feel that if saying "I love you" spoils an evening and signals the end of whatever relationship you have, you're probably saying the precious words to the wrong person.

we all like words when come from the heart :)
Song lyrics below here:-

I know I stand in line
Until you think you have the time
To spend an evening with me...
And if we go someplace to dance
I know that there's a chance
You would be leaving with me
Then afterwards we drop into a quiet little place
And have a drink or two
And then I go and spoil it all
By saying something stupid
Like I love you

I can see it in your eyes
That you despise the same old lines
You heard the night before
And though it's just a line to you
For me it's true
And never seemed so right before

I practice every day to find some clever
lines to say
To make the meaning come through
But then I think I'll wait until the evening
gets late
And I'm alone with you

The time is right
Your perfume fills my head
The stars get red
And oh the night's so blue
And then I go and spoil it all
By saying something stupid
Like I love you...

Robbie Williams and Nicole Kidman - Something Stu…: http://youtu.be/icZHj6DG7ms

No one but me

I heard some one
I turned for a glimpse,
I was wrong. No one was there.
On this long winding road I was alone,
I liked it that way.

The leaves were falling
falling till they nestled together,
Content in paving my path.
I heard that noise again.
Who could it be?
I turned to see, but I was alone.

And yet…
I realized then,
It was me…
My shadow rustling the dead leaves

The Alchemist factor to change your life

I don’t know a single person that doesn’t want to change their life. At the very least, we all want to improve. Why not? I want to grow as a person as time goes on, and so does everyone.

The unfortunate truth is that a lot of the time, the changes we want to make on ourselves never become a reality. Changes always occur, whether we like them to or not, but those changes aren’t necessarily what we wish them to be. It’s not that it’s not possible for one to change their life, rather it’s usually because one hasn’t figured out how to. Or they aren’t driven enough…. I haven’t rid myself of my ego nearly as much as I would like to… yet. I haven’t made it happen, but I haven’t given u.

Changing your life doesn’t always entail changing yourself (although that is a big part). It could be spending time with new people, people that care more about you, or that you feel like you can trust. It could be living in a new environment, which is partly people, but also location, atmosphere. Most of all, it could be how you spend your time. Do you follow your passion? Do you do what feeds your soul? Start doing that, and you’ll see a major change in your life.

There is a lot to manifesting change in your life. You need the right attitude, the right drive to make it happen. You’ve got to be determined, sometimes downright perseverant. But it all comes down to one little element that makes all the difference:

“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.”
–Thomas Jefferson

This quote sums it up for me. It’s more than just true. I think what Thomas Jefferson said should be a mantra for any that wish to change their lives. You have to be willing to do something you’ve never done. If you aren’t willing and you keep trying the same things, it’s ridiculous to expect to see things transform before your eyes.

This is true not only in discovering parts of ourselves, but also in incurring all kinds of things into our lives. If you continuously fail at something, you’ve got to revise your plan, right? As the old saying goes: if at first you don’t succeed, try, try something new. Er… okay that’s my spin-off version. You get what I mean.

In the eye-opening book The Alchemist, there is the perfect example of what I’m talking about. The young protagonist takes up work at a merchants crystal shop. The merchant is a middle-aged man losing hope in life, and inspiration and enthusiasm are hard for him to come by. As a result, business weakens with every passing day, and all the customers start shopping in different parts of town.

The young protagonist is an enthusiastic young man and soon after getting hired, asks for permission to try new things. With reluctance, that merchant grants him that access. So the protagonist sets up a stand outside to showcase the crystals, and serves tea to all travelers that can climb up the hill where the shop stands. Within a few weeks, business traffic changes, improves. They improved because new things were attempted. Things that the merchant was unwilling to do on his own, and thus, wasn’t seeing the change, or improvement, that he wanted.

This is the way it is for everything in our lives. If you want to change your life, if you want something you don’t have, never had, you have to, have to be willing to explore and experiment with what you haven’t yet explored and experimented with. You have to be willing to do things you’ve never done.

Do we really exist :)

The other day I was reading Rich Dad, Poor Dad and when I reached introduction given by Rich Dad, I had to keep the novel down for a while and think about what he was actually trying to convey.

What’s AIM of my life?
Am I doing something different from what others are gonna do or have done in past? My life is like yet another guy who came on this planet, survived and after death, will be chatting in peace from heaven above. Is that what I’m put to life for?

I don’t understand how I can add “something” different in my routine life.
Initially the aim was to get a good education.
After that, hunt for a good salary job.
Then, abuse government for deducting huge amount as tax from salary.
To avoid losing money in taxes, investment money in policies that will mature at age of 35+
Now the aim is to marry at a suitable age, produce kids, do there education.
Continue working and being a responsible citizen all my life.
Finally get my investments which, I’ll be forced to spend on my kids’ education.
Die one day with one Q in my mind, “What da hell did I do all my life??”

I mean how different is this with “normal” routine which every other human being on this planet follow?

If I think about future with this routine in mind, how many people will remember me, if tomorrow I’m not on this planet??
Obviously my family  sure will miss me for a week :(

My girlfriend sure will miss me.

My friends will make other company. So I don’t expect them to miss me.

Kids (if any) will be glad that their  dad is no more.

My blog visitors will start cursing me for not updating blog regularly. Few might remember me in there curses.

Credit card companies might try my number for clearing pending payments.

I believe, leaving apart just a bunch of crazy living beings and that too for a short duration I don’t think my non-existence will impact anyone.

Is this what everyone experience while they’re alive?
And even after knowing this fact, people still continue surviving, just to be a non-existent entity one day.

Is that what we’ve come to life for, as human being?
The thought of being a “no-body” one day freaks me out at times.

Everyone will be enjoying; only I’ll not be present.
People will be busy in partying; only I’ll not be around.

Wireless internet connection will be available free of cost; only I’ll not be using it.

P0rn channels will be made legal in India; only I’ll not be able to watch it.

Every other people whom I’d bumped into once in my life, will continue as if nothing happened.

*Sigh*

PS: I don’t believe in re-incarnation, so please don’t mention anything about that shit. And if reincarnation…I’d love to come back as kelly brook's finger tips…hehehe

Ride the storm

I wrote this because even if I feel ashamed to admit it, sometimes I’m weak, and life can be really, really hard:

It’s rough, it’s interminable,

This game that we play,

No matter how hard you try,

It seems there’s no winning,

Only losing, of every kind,

 

Everyday is the same,

Grinding you away,

Struggles, struggles

The chance to fail,

 

It’s a fact of life,

A part of you,

You’ll get knocked down,

But are you content to just sit around?

 

Don’t run from the truth of it,

Don’t hide from your life,

Hold what you have,

It’ll all pass, with a rumble and a sigh,

 

Never give up,

Failure isn’t forever,

Ride the storm,

Ride the storm

Writing has marvellous power inside.

What role do writers play in social change?As a blogger lover I feel I am in search of my truth. When I discover something significant, I try to share it with others in my creative writings. When I will be successful, my creations will inspire my readers and will help them get in touch with their own truth.

I think other writers are also in search of their own truth and share it in their writings. When poets are creating poems or fiction writers are writing short stories, there is no way for them to know how their writings will affect others and bring any social and political changes. The more gifted and talented the writers, the more they are intuitively in touch with the dynamics of their social environments. Some writers are fortunate that a large number of people can identify and relate to their creations. There are some writers who become representative of their generation.in English Literature poets like Walt Whitman and Ezra Pound and fiction writers like Virginia Woolf and Franz Kafka became representatives of their era.

The question arises that when Ghalib was creating his poems and  many other good writers was writing his stories, were they consciously trying to bring social changes or the social changes they inspired were unplanned and unpredictable.

In my opinion when writers consciously write to create social changes then they become social activists. If their writings fulfill literary criteria then they can be both, writers as well as social activists, as both roles are not mutually exclusive, although difficult to balance.

I think the worlds of creative writers and social activists are quite different. Creative writers, whether poets or novelists, playwrights or essayists, need to isolate themselves from others, to nurture their creative imagination. Many creative personalities are shy and introverted. They need privacy and uninterrupted free time to complete their unfinished manuscripts. They need to delve deeper in their unconscious mind to give birth to their masterpieces. After writers create their poems, plays and stories they become their own first readers. Many writers have a separate room in their home or a corner in the local library, where they deliver their creations and those isolated corners become their labor rooms. The writings of creative writers can inspire social and political changes but many writers are not members of political parties as they cherish their creative freedom and do not want to follow the party line of those political parties. They want to write for the whole community and humanity rather than just one political party whether of the right or the left.

As compared to creative writers, social and political activists are active members of social organizations and political parties and attend their meetings and participate in the political process to change the laws and social traditions. Such activists are usually extraverts and outgoing people who like to interact with groups and engage in heated dialogues and passionate debates. Many social and political activists have their favorite writers, poets and philosophers who are a source of inspiration for them.

There were many social and political movements in history when poets, philosophers and political activists worked together as a team to bring social and political changes but their roles were well defined. It was like making a film in which writers, actors and directors have their well defined roles. In some cases a writer can also be an actor and a director but it is very rare as each role demands a certain level of expertise and it is difficult, if not impossible, for one person to be a versatile genius.

When we study different writers we realize that alongside creative writers who create poems and plays, essays and novels, there are other writers who write books about science and psychology, economics and political science, sociology and anthropology. Some writers like Karl Marx dreamt of social and political revolutions while there were others like Charles Darwin, Sigmund Freud and Albert Einstein who broadened our existential horizons and helped us rationally understand life and universe around us. They brought inner revolutions that gave birth to outer revolutions. When people develop social consciousness then it is easier for them to bring social changes. Some writers change social attitudes while others change social environments and circumstances and in some mysterious way they are all connected.

When we study the social and political changes of the 20^thcentury, we realize that there were two distinct traditions that were inspired by gifted writers. The first tradition was of those people who believed in armed struggle. Revolutionaries like Ho Chi Minh, Fidel Castro were inspired by the writings of Vladimir Lenin and Karl Marx who believed that ends justify the means. They believed in creating peace by using violent methods. The other tradition was of those people who believed in bringing social and political changes by peaceful means and did not believe in armed struggle. They were inspired by writers and reformers like Martin Luther King Jr, Mohandas Gandhi and Leo Tolstoy. Such writers believed that the ends did not justify the means. They were of the opinion that using violence to create peace was a dangerous proposition, especially when religion joined hands with politics.

The more we study writers of different traditions, the more we realize that they share their truth in their writings hoping that personal and social truth will liberate humanity. They hope that truth will help human beings to decrease human suffering and improve their quality of life. Over the centuries writers have played a significant role in social change that paved the way for human evolution. Fortunate are the communities and cultures that have writers who are not only entertaining but also enlightening, who are not only poetic but also philosophical, who have, not only hindsight, but also insight and foresight and lead the caravan of humanity. Such writers bring constructive social change and inspire us to create a peaceful world together.so we proudly can say that writers play role in social change.

Life's way of speaking

When it gets down to that moment,

That moment I must say the right words,

I stress, and I fret and I panic,

All I can hear are the birds,

At first I try to ignore them,

To let the annoyance pass,

I have things to do, I have those words to say,

Yet the birds continue to harass,

With anger I curse them and their songs,

I need to attend to what lay in front of me!

But it’s the world that I should be listening to,

If I want my soul to be free,

I bind myself down,

To material concerns,

But instead I must let go,

It’s a hard lesson to learn,

Slowly I stop myself and listen,

Quieting my silent scream,

The birds are life’s way of speaking,

Saying far more than at first it may seem