Miracle happens

Well here it's my post related to 80 year Old man......
(1) Have a firm handshake.
(2) Look people in the eye.
(3) If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
(4) Keep secrets.
(5) Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen Everyday.
(6) Always accept an outstretched hand.
(7) be brave. Even if you're not,pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
(8) avoid sarcastic remarks.
(9) choose your life's mate carefully.from this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.
(10) make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never findout.
(11) lend only those books you never care to see again.
(12) never deprive someone of hope ; it might be all that they have.
(13) give people a second chance bit not third.
(14) Be romantic.
(15) become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
(16) loosen up. Relax. Except for rare -life and death- matters,nothing is as important as it first seems.
(17) don't allow the phone to interrupt
Important moments. It's there for our convenience,not the caller's.
(18) Be a good loser.
(19) Be a good winner.
(20) think twice before burdening a friend with secrets.
(21) when someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
(22) be modest. A lot was accomplished
before you born.
(23) keep it simple.
(24) don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
(25) live your life so that your epitaph could read no regrets.
(26) Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the once you did.
(27) never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
(28) remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
(29) take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
(30) visit friend and relatives who are good for you when they're in hospital.you need only stay a few minutes.
(31) begin each day with some of your favourite music.
(32) once in a while,take the scenic route.
(33) answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
(34) keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table,million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 am.
(35) show respect for everyone who works for a living,regardless of how trivial their job.
(36) send your loved ones flowers.think of a reason later.
(37) become someone's hero.
(38) marry only for love.
(39) count your blessings.
(40) compliment the meal when you are a guest in someone's home.
(41) remember that 80 percent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

Read my lips!!!

Well after watching 3 Idiots I was wondering about the lessons that the movie conveys through its story. Some useful lessons for you which are realy helpful in current compettive scenario.

1. Never Try To Be Successful
Success is the bye-product. Excellence always creates success. So, never run after the success, let it happen automatically in the life..

Do not learn to get success. Learn for knowledge. Success will follow. When we strive hard to learn and improve our knowledge, we move ahead in life.

2. Freedom To Life
Don’t die before actual death. Live every moment to the fullest as you are going to die today night. Life is gifted to humankind to live, live & live @ happiness.

Do not take life too seriously. Life is there to enjoy, have fun, making friends, and of course getting proper education. We get life once and we should live it the way we dream of.


3. Passion Leads To Excellence
When your hobby becomes your profession and passion becomes your profession. You will be able to lead up to excellence in the life. Satisfaction, pleasure, joy and love will be the outcome of following passion. Following your passion for years, you will surely become something one day.

4. Learning Is Very Simple
Teachers do fail. Learners never fail. Learning is never complicated or difficult. Learning is always possible whatever rule you apply.

5. Pressure At Head Current education system is developing pressures on students’ head. University intelligence is useful and making some impact in the life but it cannot be at the cost of the life.

6. Life Is Emotion Management Not Intelligence Optimization Memory and regular study have definite value and it always helps you in leading a life. You are able to survive even if you can make some mark in the path of the life. With artificial intelligence, you can survive and win but you cannot prove yourself genius. Therefore, in this process genius dies in you.

7. Necessity Is The Mother Of Invention
Necessity creates pressure and forces you to invent something or to make it happen or to use your potentiality. Aamir Khan in this film, 3 idiots, is able to prove in the film by using aqua guard pump at the last moment.

8. Simplicity is Life
Life is need base never want base. Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life and Indian culture highly stresses on simple living and high thinking, and this is the way of life: ‘Legs down to earth and eyes looking beyond the sky’

9. Industrial Leadership Dean of the institute in 3 idiots is showing very typical leadership. He has his own principles, values and ideology, and he leads the whole institute accordingly. This is an example of current institutional leadership. In the present scenario, most of the institutes are fixed in a block or Squarish thinking.

10. Importance Of One Word In Communication
If communication dies, everything dies. Each word has impact and value in communication. One word if used wrongly or emphasized wrongly or paused at a wrong place in communication what effect it creates and how is it affected is demonstrated very well in this movie.

Learn to communicate well. Each word has its own importance. Proper pauses and stress on certain words will convey the exact meaning, or may even change the entire meaning. Like in the movie, Chatur's speech was modified with few words but the entire speech was changed.

11. Mediocrity Is Penalized

Middle class family or average talent or average institute is going to suffer and has to pay maximum price in the life if they do not upgrade their living standards. To be born poor or as an average person is not a crime but to die as an average person with middle class talent is miserable and if you are unable to optimize your potentiality and die with unused potentiality then that is your shameful truth. One should not die as a mediocre. He/she has to bring out genius inside him/her and has to use his/her potentiality to the optimum level.

hey problem you are nothing

So I was on facebook today and saw a quote on one of my facebook friend's statuses. The quote is this:

"In times of difficulties, don’t ever say, ‘God, I have a big problem!’ Instead say, ‘Hey problem, I have a big God!’ and everything will be all right." ~ Brahma Kumaris

 I am not a believer in mere coincidence.  I mean, in things that really matter.  For instance, I DO believe it could be a coincidence that you wear the same outfit as a friend....or that you call someone who tells you they had just picked up the phone to call you....

It's so easy to get bogged down with all the problems we face in this world (for me, I know, it seems like the list in endless), and it's easy to forget that God really IS bigger than ALL our problems.  But the reality is this -- He totally IS!!

Not only does God fight for us, but He promises to DELIVER us from what ails us.  We just have to be mindful that He will do it on HIS time, not OUR time, and DEFINITELY NOT any other affliction's time, because if He did it on the schedule of the latter, it would never be accomplished, and if He did it on OUR time, it would never teach us patience (one of the hardest, but most rewarding, fruits of the Spirit, to embody).

So....to wrap up....instead of telling God, "God, I have this really big problem and I don't think I can beat it," we should say, "Problem, I have an insurmountably big GOD, and He will take care of you!!"

So take THAT!!  MY GOD FIGHTS ON MY BEHALF, which means He will help me defeat YOU!!

A while back

Almost some time ago I learnt how to fly,

Dreams were new, hopes were high.

A world unseen and unimagined was waiting for me.

Faces were new, some were good, and some were shy.

Finally I learnt how to fly.

Before anything happened, you came by,

Changed every bit of my dreams,

Made me smile and sometimes cry,

For everything wrong that has happened, I still hold onto you.

I am still flying and the reason is you.

Friends, who were close, never came by,

Chasing their dreams, it was their time to fly.

We all have options to fly or to stay,

People will come and go by their own way.

I smile at my lord, for all the courage he has given me

I have now learnt how to fly.

A brother letter

Well i'm not sure we’re ever had this kind of talk before.

I should’ve told you this if you were able to speak or listen me but you are not like others even not intelligent like others but you are god gifted.I guess it’s sort of destiny fault. But I want to make up for all of that as much as I possibly can.

Anyways my blog starts now : As a modern girl, you’re subjected to so many stereotypes. That you’re supposed to be prim and proper and always maintain your calm and basically live with everyone else in harmony and conformity. But I want to tell you that you don’t need to.

I know that everyone has always taught you to be the polite, humble and grateful woman that you are today, but I want you to be impolite if the need ever arises. I want you to stand up for your fellow woman or man, at the risk of discomfort and develop a zero-tolerance attitude for bullying, harassment of any kind, demeaning comments or insensitivity, whether it’s directed at you or anyone else. You don’t have to make a scene; you can calmly explain to others what they did wrong. But don’t ever be afraid of making a scene if you have to. I can understand how at first you’d be perceived as somewhat ill-mannered and the sort who causes embarrassment to others. But the more you fight these stereotypes, the more you’ll promote a culture of tolerance and understanding.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life. As a young woman, you may seek out the companionship of your fellow woman and think that you could lead a happy and content life if you followed the example of your best friend. Don’t. Everyone leads a unique life, filled with their own challenges and hardships. Just because you envy the life of your friends, doesn’t mean you need to follow in their footsteps. Be yourself, always. You’re a beautiful person, on the inside and out. Spend time with yourself and get to know you. Life is too short to live trapped in the dogma of others.

Don’t compare yourself with other women. While having a female role model to look up to is great, constantly feeling jealous of other women can really bring you down. Don’t be bogged down by the media’s unrealistic standards of beauty, you’re beautiful just the way you are. You don’t need to use an endless supply of products every time you want to feel good about yourself. Too many women waste their time being insecure and unhappy about their bodies to enjoy their life. Don’t be one of them.

I also want you to become more independent. Although you can always count on me to help out in any way that i can, I want you to start doing more things by yourself. Like driving to the store. Paying your bills online. Cooking for one. Prioritizing your spending. Being independent isn’t just about making your own money and doing what you like. It’s a way of life. Independence means accepting responsibility for your choices and your actions. It means feeling secure in your life, no matter what is going down around you. And it means living with the consequences.

People tend to confuse independence with never asking for help. The real key to becoming an independent woman is knowing as much as possible about yourself and the world around you. It’s simply not possible for any one person to know everything. So if you don’t know something, ask. Learn. Teach yourself. Read a book. Take a class.  And you’ll never have to ask again. Take pride in yourself and your capabilities. It’s a feeling of joy that no one can take away from you.

I also want you to be more happy. And to not base that happiness on your relationship status. I won’t pretend to tell you that I know everything there is about love, but what I have learnt is that having a significant other in your life should enhance your life. But you don’t need a man to define yourself or validate your life. Too many people spend too much time chasing after a relationship they don’t need before they’ve learnt to love themselves.

When you do fall in love, I want you to take your time. There isn’t really such a thing as ‘the perfect partner’, but any man you do fall in love with should respect and love the strong, independent woman that you are. He should appreciate you for all that you do, support your passions as though they were his own, be a shoulder to cry on and call you out when you make a mistake. He should be understanding and communicative. He should be someone you can talk to just as easily about your day as your hopes, dreams and fears.

But even if you do get into a relationship, or get married, always make sure you have other things going on in your life outside the relationship. Hang out with your own friends, make plans at work, have your own hobbies and interests. Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean losing all sense of self or your identity. But at the same time, there’s a fine line between compromise and being yourself. Relationships aren’t about one person. And its never going to be without its ups and downs. Learn to throw your ego aside and work with your partner when things get hard.

I’m not going to sugarcoat it; being a woman in this modern day is pretty hard. You not only have to face opposition from men who may think you’re beneath them, but also from your own gender who may pull you down when you climb too high. But I’m confident that the smart, beautiful woman you’ve become will find a way to steamroll through any obstacle and come out the other end, completely unscathed. And while I may have never told you this before, I’m glad that i'm your brother It’s a badge of honor I’ll always wear proudly on my chest. 

zindagi na milegi dobara

A deep thought while sitting on the couch, with a jumbo mug of coffee and a pinch of loneliness, sometimes evoke realizations that were hibernating for so long. And the irony is that they were hibernating in our subconscious mind, an integral part of us only. May be these realizations pop up now and then, but they are too subtle to be heard; too tiny to deserve any attention by us. In this battle of “our oblivion towards them versus their urge for getting recognition” they easily get knocked out. They dive deep into that dark unexplored zone of our subconscious mind, only to surface once again. But their constant efforts, that secretly increases by leaps and bounds, sometime do win and we give in. Thank God, we give in. It is this defeat, that often gifts us with the most memorable and precious moments of our lives. It is due to this defeat, that the realizations get converted into actions and we are the winners!

Life is a typical rat race, an ecstatic journey! But have we ever thought that the major chunk of it is dedicated to fulfill our career oriented aspirations and for literally running and slogging for getting what we crave for? Not stopping for anything, not for anyone. This is how we look at it right now. Well, life demands this sort of an attitude nowadays. In the spare time, if we get any, we do certain things to relax, if we are not busy taking care of our sleep deprivation!! If we take a close look at our so very well maintained priority list where is that “item number” representing “having quality time with friends” or “taking a break with our closed ones who are not close by”?  It somehow manages to show up on the list at the fag end of it, but almost completely unnoticed. Those “very rare” lonely face-offs with ourselves, are the time that we realize that it even exists in our list. Memories and more memories are what follow and it pushes us hard to feel the urge for spending time with them all over again; they, who are just left ignored on the way to our dreams.

But if we purposely take out time to be with them, to spend that “well deserved” quality time, as if we don’t spend now we would never get another chance to be with them, does it cost a lot? Why do we have to see a lavish, larger than life movie “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” to comprehend that? A long awaited & deserving break with friends and closed ones has it all to give life its true meaning. A short trip with an essence of reunion may reignite those bonds that were integral part of our daily life sometime back. Sometimes a short trip with our friends and family is what we need to augment those emotional connections once again, to feel human like and not like a robot anymore, to feel that life is not just daily a struggle for existence but a celebration; having our family and friends around, life is indeed a celebration. A trip meant for bonding and a lot more. A trip of rediscovering not only ourselves but our ties with those people who don’t even complain to us of being forgotten. Starting from fighting for the window seat of the car to being adamant not to be pushed to the awesomely suffocating back seat; from sleeping unconsciously on each others’ “as strong as ever shoulders” to ordering all types of food possible (as if this is our last meal on earth); from giggling over each others’ funny food habits to returning back with grumpy faces, teary eyes but still putting up a smile as “if everything is just fine”– these are enough for us to have a change of heart. It is these that testify our real self and the true purpose of our life and reshuffles the priority list completely.

The unseen strings of attachment and bonding re-appears without even knowing. The very realization that “these are the moments that are food for life and we need to hold on to them”, is what gets engraved on our soul forever. The rat race will not stop for us if we fall out, but friends would. And it is these little get-togethers, occasional trips, meet ups that give it “the well deserved” boost! It gives us the heavenly pleasure of stealing some moments for ourselves from this ruthless marathon called life.

We are all in one team, a team of affectionate, attached and bonded people who just forget to live while catching up with the speed of life; who are as hungry for love as ever but that gets hidden beneath the peer pressure of proving oneself. But realizations strike us hard occasionally and we run towards our beloved and grab them. And we know that they were always there silently waiting for us to express. This doesn’t need to be told to the world but to be silently accepted by ourselves.

Till we again take out time from our busy life for ourselves, the moments need to stay very close to the heart! The realizations need to hold on to us and keep on fighting to knock us down all over again!

Keep promising :)

Well man is by nature a social animal. In fact society is based on the links and the relationships between people. At a very young age we learn to adapt to our surroundings to get along with the people around us. Before we even start school we learn to keep promises. Be good, behave, and mom or dad will take you out, buy you a toy; if you’re not good, Santa won’t get you presents, etc. By the time we are ready to start school we already know what it takes to keep a promise.

When I was growing up the first thing my parents taught me was how important it is to set goals in our lives, to make promises and be true to them. My dad told “We build strength of character by making and keeping promises to ourselves and to others. The commitments we make and keep to ourselves and to others, and our integrity to those commitments, is the essence of any successful relationship in life. That is what makes possible every other positive thing in our lives, like having friends, being successful in our jobs. It is important to honour your word and keep your promise. Always try to live your life with dignity, integrity and loyalty.”

I grew up on his words and being loyal to my friends became vital for me. But it didn’t always end well. I remember when I was a student in grade six, the teacher who taught us the course gave us too much homework, even though we had him once a week. During this one particular lesson after he assigned us homework of copying so many lessons our whole class agreed to not do the homework. On the day it was due, when asked to hand in the homework, I found out that everyone in class without exception had done it except me. Shocked as I was, when asked where my homework was, I simply said I don’t have it. I was called to stand at the blackboard and was berated of course in front of the whole class and asked to redo the work twenty times.

I didn’t understand why my classmates did what they did, nor did I care at the time. It is our response to what happens to us that hurts the most. I was not hurt. Disappointed with my friends behavior, yes one hundred percent. But I was not hurt, for as Gandhi once said:

“They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.”

I stood in the middle of the classroom with my head held high because I had kept my promise and I felt good about it. But there have been times in my life when my choices have brought consequences I would rather have lived without.