A while back

Almost some time ago I learnt how to fly,

Dreams were new, hopes were high.

A world unseen and unimagined was waiting for me.

Faces were new, some were good, and some were shy.

Finally I learnt how to fly.

Before anything happened, you came by,

Changed every bit of my dreams,

Made me smile and sometimes cry,

For everything wrong that has happened, I still hold onto you.

I am still flying and the reason is you.

Friends, who were close, never came by,

Chasing their dreams, it was their time to fly.

We all have options to fly or to stay,

People will come and go by their own way.

I smile at my lord, for all the courage he has given me

I have now learnt how to fly.

A brother letter

Well i'm not sure we’re ever had this kind of talk before.

I should’ve told you this if you were able to speak or listen me but you are not like others even not intelligent like others but you are god gifted.I guess it’s sort of destiny fault. But I want to make up for all of that as much as I possibly can.

Anyways my blog starts now : As a modern girl, you’re subjected to so many stereotypes. That you’re supposed to be prim and proper and always maintain your calm and basically live with everyone else in harmony and conformity. But I want to tell you that you don’t need to.

I know that everyone has always taught you to be the polite, humble and grateful woman that you are today, but I want you to be impolite if the need ever arises. I want you to stand up for your fellow woman or man, at the risk of discomfort and develop a zero-tolerance attitude for bullying, harassment of any kind, demeaning comments or insensitivity, whether it’s directed at you or anyone else. You don’t have to make a scene; you can calmly explain to others what they did wrong. But don’t ever be afraid of making a scene if you have to. I can understand how at first you’d be perceived as somewhat ill-mannered and the sort who causes embarrassment to others. But the more you fight these stereotypes, the more you’ll promote a culture of tolerance and understanding.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life. As a young woman, you may seek out the companionship of your fellow woman and think that you could lead a happy and content life if you followed the example of your best friend. Don’t. Everyone leads a unique life, filled with their own challenges and hardships. Just because you envy the life of your friends, doesn’t mean you need to follow in their footsteps. Be yourself, always. You’re a beautiful person, on the inside and out. Spend time with yourself and get to know you. Life is too short to live trapped in the dogma of others.

Don’t compare yourself with other women. While having a female role model to look up to is great, constantly feeling jealous of other women can really bring you down. Don’t be bogged down by the media’s unrealistic standards of beauty, you’re beautiful just the way you are. You don’t need to use an endless supply of products every time you want to feel good about yourself. Too many women waste their time being insecure and unhappy about their bodies to enjoy their life. Don’t be one of them.

I also want you to become more independent. Although you can always count on me to help out in any way that i can, I want you to start doing more things by yourself. Like driving to the store. Paying your bills online. Cooking for one. Prioritizing your spending. Being independent isn’t just about making your own money and doing what you like. It’s a way of life. Independence means accepting responsibility for your choices and your actions. It means feeling secure in your life, no matter what is going down around you. And it means living with the consequences.

People tend to confuse independence with never asking for help. The real key to becoming an independent woman is knowing as much as possible about yourself and the world around you. It’s simply not possible for any one person to know everything. So if you don’t know something, ask. Learn. Teach yourself. Read a book. Take a class.  And you’ll never have to ask again. Take pride in yourself and your capabilities. It’s a feeling of joy that no one can take away from you.

I also want you to be more happy. And to not base that happiness on your relationship status. I won’t pretend to tell you that I know everything there is about love, but what I have learnt is that having a significant other in your life should enhance your life. But you don’t need a man to define yourself or validate your life. Too many people spend too much time chasing after a relationship they don’t need before they’ve learnt to love themselves.

When you do fall in love, I want you to take your time. There isn’t really such a thing as ‘the perfect partner’, but any man you do fall in love with should respect and love the strong, independent woman that you are. He should appreciate you for all that you do, support your passions as though they were his own, be a shoulder to cry on and call you out when you make a mistake. He should be understanding and communicative. He should be someone you can talk to just as easily about your day as your hopes, dreams and fears.

But even if you do get into a relationship, or get married, always make sure you have other things going on in your life outside the relationship. Hang out with your own friends, make plans at work, have your own hobbies and interests. Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean losing all sense of self or your identity. But at the same time, there’s a fine line between compromise and being yourself. Relationships aren’t about one person. And its never going to be without its ups and downs. Learn to throw your ego aside and work with your partner when things get hard.

I’m not going to sugarcoat it; being a woman in this modern day is pretty hard. You not only have to face opposition from men who may think you’re beneath them, but also from your own gender who may pull you down when you climb too high. But I’m confident that the smart, beautiful woman you’ve become will find a way to steamroll through any obstacle and come out the other end, completely unscathed. And while I may have never told you this before, I’m glad that i'm your brother It’s a badge of honor I’ll always wear proudly on my chest. 

zindagi na milegi dobara

A deep thought while sitting on the couch, with a jumbo mug of coffee and a pinch of loneliness, sometimes evoke realizations that were hibernating for so long. And the irony is that they were hibernating in our subconscious mind, an integral part of us only. May be these realizations pop up now and then, but they are too subtle to be heard; too tiny to deserve any attention by us. In this battle of “our oblivion towards them versus their urge for getting recognition” they easily get knocked out. They dive deep into that dark unexplored zone of our subconscious mind, only to surface once again. But their constant efforts, that secretly increases by leaps and bounds, sometime do win and we give in. Thank God, we give in. It is this defeat, that often gifts us with the most memorable and precious moments of our lives. It is due to this defeat, that the realizations get converted into actions and we are the winners!

Life is a typical rat race, an ecstatic journey! But have we ever thought that the major chunk of it is dedicated to fulfill our career oriented aspirations and for literally running and slogging for getting what we crave for? Not stopping for anything, not for anyone. This is how we look at it right now. Well, life demands this sort of an attitude nowadays. In the spare time, if we get any, we do certain things to relax, if we are not busy taking care of our sleep deprivation!! If we take a close look at our so very well maintained priority list where is that “item number” representing “having quality time with friends” or “taking a break with our closed ones who are not close by”?  It somehow manages to show up on the list at the fag end of it, but almost completely unnoticed. Those “very rare” lonely face-offs with ourselves, are the time that we realize that it even exists in our list. Memories and more memories are what follow and it pushes us hard to feel the urge for spending time with them all over again; they, who are just left ignored on the way to our dreams.

But if we purposely take out time to be with them, to spend that “well deserved” quality time, as if we don’t spend now we would never get another chance to be with them, does it cost a lot? Why do we have to see a lavish, larger than life movie “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” to comprehend that? A long awaited & deserving break with friends and closed ones has it all to give life its true meaning. A short trip with an essence of reunion may reignite those bonds that were integral part of our daily life sometime back. Sometimes a short trip with our friends and family is what we need to augment those emotional connections once again, to feel human like and not like a robot anymore, to feel that life is not just daily a struggle for existence but a celebration; having our family and friends around, life is indeed a celebration. A trip meant for bonding and a lot more. A trip of rediscovering not only ourselves but our ties with those people who don’t even complain to us of being forgotten. Starting from fighting for the window seat of the car to being adamant not to be pushed to the awesomely suffocating back seat; from sleeping unconsciously on each others’ “as strong as ever shoulders” to ordering all types of food possible (as if this is our last meal on earth); from giggling over each others’ funny food habits to returning back with grumpy faces, teary eyes but still putting up a smile as “if everything is just fine”– these are enough for us to have a change of heart. It is these that testify our real self and the true purpose of our life and reshuffles the priority list completely.

The unseen strings of attachment and bonding re-appears without even knowing. The very realization that “these are the moments that are food for life and we need to hold on to them”, is what gets engraved on our soul forever. The rat race will not stop for us if we fall out, but friends would. And it is these little get-togethers, occasional trips, meet ups that give it “the well deserved” boost! It gives us the heavenly pleasure of stealing some moments for ourselves from this ruthless marathon called life.

We are all in one team, a team of affectionate, attached and bonded people who just forget to live while catching up with the speed of life; who are as hungry for love as ever but that gets hidden beneath the peer pressure of proving oneself. But realizations strike us hard occasionally and we run towards our beloved and grab them. And we know that they were always there silently waiting for us to express. This doesn’t need to be told to the world but to be silently accepted by ourselves.

Till we again take out time from our busy life for ourselves, the moments need to stay very close to the heart! The realizations need to hold on to us and keep on fighting to knock us down all over again!